Thursday, March 27, 2008

Trust me...

Logical Psycho wrote that a blog on trust a few months back. Since I’m on that subject once again, I’ll refer back to his blog.
Two things he mentions stick out to me.
"Trust"...not only an important word,but an essential ingredient in any close relationship."
"...they can confide anything to me without fear of judgment..."
I think he’s right. Trust is very important. Not just in the area of infidelity, or suspicions thereof, but in friendships too. So is being able to confide anything without fear of judgment.
I also have a friend that told me "to trust someone you must first assume they aren’t trustworthy. Since I always trust people I continue to do so until they prove they cant be trusted." Another good point.
Sometimes close friends share with each other their pasts, their mistakes, their secrets, & just generally things that they wouldn’t announce to every person they meet. Once these things are shared, though, it’s with the understanding that they’ll still be accepted by their friend, & said friend won’t use these things against him/her in an argument, or to make a point. I think it’s a huge disappointment & betrayal, when that divulged information is thrown back up in your face. Aren’t true friends supposed to accept you for who you are, mistakes & all? Perhaps my views on a close friendship are too demanding? How does it make you feel, when you find out that information is used against you by your friend?