My friend, Logical Psycho, wrote a blog recently on trust in a relationship. He had a lot of great comments on there. Some say the trust can never be repaired, some say forgive & forget.
I'll quote one comment, because it's one of the ones that have inspired this blog.
"Once you break that trust, to move forward, knowing deep down its still there, is hard to ignore."
I realize that this was written in interest of a person whose trust had been broken. However, I'll play Devil's Advocate, only because I've been on the other side of the coin, whether warranted or not. Unwarranted is even worse, I think, but the end result to the relationship is almost always the same.
The person who "forgives & forgets" doesn't really forget. They just temporarily bury it, & maintain thoughts of skepticism at every turn. Do they really forgive? I don't know. I think they make the effort, though.
However, when you are the person that another mistrusts, or distrusts, (even without just cause) you change too. You know that at every turn there's a possibility that you will be mistrusted, or distrusted. You walk on eggshells, for fear the possibility of that loss of trust will rise up again. You change in how you relate to others. The only problem is, when you change, you aren't the same person they chose to have the relationship with then, are you?
So tell me........if the incident of distrust cannot be truly forgotten, how can the relationship move forward in a healthy manner? Is it doomed for failure, or can it be salvaged?
Thursday, December 20, 2007
Sunday, October 28, 2007
October isn't JUST a pink month...
I had completely forgotten, until this morning, that this month isn't just about Breast Cancer Awareness. October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Actually, I had posted a blog last year, coincidentally on the same date, that some of you "old-timers" may have read.
When I posted this last year, I didn't know that at the time, a dear friend of one of MY Myspace friends was lying in the hospital trying to recover from being a victim of domestic violence. She wasn't lucky enough to make it, leaving behind two small children. I'm hoping her husband has been locked up for good by now. Domestic violence is closer to home than we think, & it's serious.
"The feature story in our local newspaper the other day (2006) was an article about domestic violence. I wasn't aware that the month of October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. This article was basically about the shelters available, but it did bring up a good point..."The abuser has control over the money or a car....This is the control factor."
My friend, Cherie Amour wrote a great blog that you need to check out (actually, read more than just this one, she's a great writer), but I wanted to quote her comment here, because it is just great advice:
"One thing that I have learned: I don't have to accept unacceptable behavior from a man that demeans me just to make a relationship work or to hold on to him and keep him happy...and I'm not willing to sell my soul for the relationship, or give 90 percent while he gives 10 per cent. My happiness matters too, and no relationship is worth suffering through or losing your self-esteem or sanity over. I've learned that I don't need a man to "complete" me and that I'm not a "loser" when not in a relationship.""
Women that are in these relationships will make excuses & blame themselves. Especially when the abuser turns on the charm afterwards, proclaiming to be sorry, promising it won't happen again. Friends & family become frustrated trying to "help" & offer advice, because the women won't listen. It's something that has to come from within. They need to realize for themselves that they just aren't going to tolerate it anymore. As one of my friends always says, you have to love yourself before you can have a healthy relationship.
We teach others how to treat us....does that make sense? The longer we tolerate behavior, the longer it will go on, because we send the message that it's okay to treat us like that, and that we'll tolerate it.
I don't plan on sounding like I'm preaching. I just wanted to bring the subject to the forefront. I just can't express enough the seriousness of Domestic Violence. It truly CAN be a matter of life & death, & God forbid if there are children involved, because I can't imagine how they would feel to lose their mother to the hands of their father. Better to be separated, than orphaned. Yes, it's a grave matter.
When I posted this last year, I didn't know that at the time, a dear friend of one of MY Myspace friends was lying in the hospital trying to recover from being a victim of domestic violence. She wasn't lucky enough to make it, leaving behind two small children. I'm hoping her husband has been locked up for good by now. Domestic violence is closer to home than we think, & it's serious.
"The feature story in our local newspaper the other day (2006) was an article about domestic violence. I wasn't aware that the month of October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. This article was basically about the shelters available, but it did bring up a good point..."The abuser has control over the money or a car....This is the control factor."
My friend, Cherie Amour wrote a great blog that you need to check out (actually, read more than just this one, she's a great writer), but I wanted to quote her comment here, because it is just great advice:
"One thing that I have learned: I don't have to accept unacceptable behavior from a man that demeans me just to make a relationship work or to hold on to him and keep him happy...and I'm not willing to sell my soul for the relationship, or give 90 percent while he gives 10 per cent. My happiness matters too, and no relationship is worth suffering through or losing your self-esteem or sanity over. I've learned that I don't need a man to "complete" me and that I'm not a "loser" when not in a relationship.""
Women that are in these relationships will make excuses & blame themselves. Especially when the abuser turns on the charm afterwards, proclaiming to be sorry, promising it won't happen again. Friends & family become frustrated trying to "help" & offer advice, because the women won't listen. It's something that has to come from within. They need to realize for themselves that they just aren't going to tolerate it anymore. As one of my friends always says, you have to love yourself before you can have a healthy relationship.
We teach others how to treat us....does that make sense? The longer we tolerate behavior, the longer it will go on, because we send the message that it's okay to treat us like that, and that we'll tolerate it.
I don't plan on sounding like I'm preaching. I just wanted to bring the subject to the forefront. I just can't express enough the seriousness of Domestic Violence. It truly CAN be a matter of life & death, & God forbid if there are children involved, because I can't imagine how they would feel to lose their mother to the hands of their father. Better to be separated, than orphaned. Yes, it's a grave matter.
Monday, October 08, 2007
To Flirt, or not to flirt...
To flirt, or not to flirt......
Current mood: 
flirty
Category: Friends
My friend, T. Brad, posted a table of blogtents last week or so, & one blog in particular caught my eye that I decided to bring to my own. Some of you won't be surprised why. Anyway, his blog was entitled Flirting is NOT cheating: or is it?. For those of you that don't know, T. Brad posts "debate" blogs....readers comment, then he waits & posts his rebuttal.
I thought I'd put the question to my blog. What do you think? Is it really cheating? I'm interested in hearing what YOU think. Do you like to flirt, & be flirted with?
Is flirting so evil??
Wednesday, October 03, 2007
Jealous, My Love?
Today, I'm co-blogging with my friend gordo. If you haven't checked out his blogs, you're missing out. Anyway, I referred to his blog a few weeks ago about people in relationships having friends of the opposite gender, which also touched on the subject of Jealousy. The other day, he mentioned Jealousy again, so I thought we could get a little discussion going. I haven't read gordo's portion before writing mine, so we'll see how they compare.
The whole concept of Jealousy brings about an anxious feeling for me. I don't think it's a bad thing to feel a hint of jealousy, but then let it drop. A hint of jealousy is a little flattering, almost, but I've been in relationships with jealous men, & it's no picnic. It evolves into such a stifling, smothering relationship.
Let's be honest. Unless you live in a cave, you're still going to interact with the opposite sex at some point. Just because you come in contact with them, however, or become friends, doesn't mean you'll end up in the sack, or even want to. But that leads us back to the last blog, about platonic friends, & whether it's possible.
I used to think that I'd be able to tell my significant other anything since I usually consider him as my closest friend, but I think some things are better left unsaid. Now I don't think it's necessary to tell the other person every little tidbit of conversation you have with anyone else. Perhaps I've learned to be cautious, perhaps I'm just skittish about anything that could bring about jealous behavior. You almost get defensive, anticipating a jealous reaction, when there isn't anything going on that you would need to be defensive over. You don't WANT to hold things back, but you get tired of fighting pointless fights.
Okay, now for what gordo has to say:
gordo
Until the right woman comes and proves me wrong, I will say that all woman, small, big, fat, ugly, or tall, have the ability to run game and they can do it well. A woman, and to be fair, also a man will always try to push the envelope to see what they can get away with. They will see if they could hoodwink someone or the other into believe their bs when it fact they know what they are doing. With regards to jealousy, a woman will test a man to see if he either is filled with jealous rage or that he has an inch of care in his body for her.
A little bit of jealousy shows that you care, however, too much, jealousy shows that you have a possible problem. Felonies can occur, when too much jealousy exist, for example:
• Stalking
• Domestic violence
• Murder
• Suicide
Jealousy is a human feeling that sometimes though, can't be escaped. Sometimes your significant other will do something that is so outrageous, that you can't help, but to get jealous. I think that all to do with playing games within the relationship. Playing games is something that some individuals do very well, whether it be a man or woman. Just as a measure to control the game playing, I personally believe that a little bit of jealousy is okay, when correctly applied.
When two people get into a relationship, it is imperative that both parties be on the same level of thinking and understanding. Both parties wants, needs and desires have to be in synch. Being honest about each others position in the relationship is of ultimate importance, otherwise jealousy will come to seek kill and destroy that relationship.
I was recently in a relationship where I was not really into the person. She was all romantic, lovey and dovey and I was trying to find the best way to rid myself of this person. I know, I could have just told her the truth but I didn't want to wreck the friendship. I might as well say, that I was using her, for we had started dating, right after I came out of a long term relationship. She was sort of a rebound thing, we would go out and do what a couple would do, but I wasn't really feeling this girl. During this relationship though, you would see me treating other females better than I was treating her, and basically disregarding her feelings. In that situation, it's a sure definite that jealousy would erupt.
I have a friend, who is dating this guy, he had recently told her that she is an emotional scumbag. All she does is let her emotions fly all over the place. Meanwhile, he is playing these mind games with her. You can 't call someone emotional, if you are playing with their emotions that just does not work.
Big time jealousy will come about, when your significant other is not in the know about important to the relationship. Actually I'm going to make an amendment here….. There are certain things that your partner does not need to know, because you are thus setting your relationship up for failure. Get real, you wouldn't walk into a police station and admit to the detectives that you are selling drugs. Now would you? Jealousy is a hard pill to swallow, it will have you staying up all night or will get you into a situation where you don't need to be. No one in a relationship likes to be put second place, and if they tell you differently, run away from them, you will be setting yourself up for hurt. Just ask yourself, when doing stuff in your relationship, how would I feel if I was on the other side of the fence? Would I approve of what I'm doing?
Alright, readers....an opinion from each side. Now for your thoughts...should you avoid the stupid fights, or be totally honest no matter what?
The whole concept of Jealousy brings about an anxious feeling for me. I don't think it's a bad thing to feel a hint of jealousy, but then let it drop. A hint of jealousy is a little flattering, almost, but I've been in relationships with jealous men, & it's no picnic. It evolves into such a stifling, smothering relationship.
Let's be honest. Unless you live in a cave, you're still going to interact with the opposite sex at some point. Just because you come in contact with them, however, or become friends, doesn't mean you'll end up in the sack, or even want to. But that leads us back to the last blog, about platonic friends, & whether it's possible.
I used to think that I'd be able to tell my significant other anything since I usually consider him as my closest friend, but I think some things are better left unsaid. Now I don't think it's necessary to tell the other person every little tidbit of conversation you have with anyone else. Perhaps I've learned to be cautious, perhaps I'm just skittish about anything that could bring about jealous behavior. You almost get defensive, anticipating a jealous reaction, when there isn't anything going on that you would need to be defensive over. You don't WANT to hold things back, but you get tired of fighting pointless fights.
Okay, now for what gordo has to say:
gordo
Until the right woman comes and proves me wrong, I will say that all woman, small, big, fat, ugly, or tall, have the ability to run game and they can do it well. A woman, and to be fair, also a man will always try to push the envelope to see what they can get away with. They will see if they could hoodwink someone or the other into believe their bs when it fact they know what they are doing. With regards to jealousy, a woman will test a man to see if he either is filled with jealous rage or that he has an inch of care in his body for her.
A little bit of jealousy shows that you care, however, too much, jealousy shows that you have a possible problem. Felonies can occur, when too much jealousy exist, for example:
• Stalking
• Domestic violence
• Murder
• Suicide
Jealousy is a human feeling that sometimes though, can't be escaped. Sometimes your significant other will do something that is so outrageous, that you can't help, but to get jealous. I think that all to do with playing games within the relationship. Playing games is something that some individuals do very well, whether it be a man or woman. Just as a measure to control the game playing, I personally believe that a little bit of jealousy is okay, when correctly applied.
When two people get into a relationship, it is imperative that both parties be on the same level of thinking and understanding. Both parties wants, needs and desires have to be in synch. Being honest about each others position in the relationship is of ultimate importance, otherwise jealousy will come to seek kill and destroy that relationship.
I was recently in a relationship where I was not really into the person. She was all romantic, lovey and dovey and I was trying to find the best way to rid myself of this person. I know, I could have just told her the truth but I didn't want to wreck the friendship. I might as well say, that I was using her, for we had started dating, right after I came out of a long term relationship. She was sort of a rebound thing, we would go out and do what a couple would do, but I wasn't really feeling this girl. During this relationship though, you would see me treating other females better than I was treating her, and basically disregarding her feelings. In that situation, it's a sure definite that jealousy would erupt.
I have a friend, who is dating this guy, he had recently told her that she is an emotional scumbag. All she does is let her emotions fly all over the place. Meanwhile, he is playing these mind games with her. You can 't call someone emotional, if you are playing with their emotions that just does not work.
Big time jealousy will come about, when your significant other is not in the know about important to the relationship. Actually I'm going to make an amendment here….. There are certain things that your partner does not need to know, because you are thus setting your relationship up for failure. Get real, you wouldn't walk into a police station and admit to the detectives that you are selling drugs. Now would you? Jealousy is a hard pill to swallow, it will have you staying up all night or will get you into a situation where you don't need to be. No one in a relationship likes to be put second place, and if they tell you differently, run away from them, you will be setting yourself up for hurt. Just ask yourself, when doing stuff in your relationship, how would I feel if I was on the other side of the fence? Would I approve of what I'm doing?
Alright, readers....an opinion from each side. Now for your thoughts...should you avoid the stupid fights, or be totally honest no matter what?
Monday, September 24, 2007
Two of a kind: Soul Mates...fact or fantasy?
The subject of Soul Mates intrigues me. I've never given it much thought, myself, but in the past month alone I've heard it mentioned three different times, from three different people. Now, I'm interested.
I'm throwing it out there for all of you to tell me what you think. Is there such a thing? What does it feel like for you, if you've experienced it? And is there only ONE soul mate for each person? Those e-harmony ads mention it all the time, I've noticed. Obviously, it's a wide-held belief.
Do you have your thinking caps on this morning? Let me know what you think.
I'm throwing it out there for all of you to tell me what you think. Is there such a thing? What does it feel like for you, if you've experienced it? And is there only ONE soul mate for each person? Those e-harmony ads mention it all the time, I've noticed. Obviously, it's a wide-held belief.
Do you have your thinking caps on this morning? Let me know what you think.
Saturday, September 22, 2007
Somebody’s Psycho, & I OWE him....
My dear, sweet (cough, cough) friend, Logical Psycho, has decided to tag me for this Grim Reaper list.
If you've been around, then you've seen me do this tag before. I could be lazy & just link the old one.....even lazier, I could just not do the tag...AGAIN. But, I can't let a tag/challenge drop, so I shall do it again. I'll change it up a bit. Think BIGGER this time.
Here's the deal: You have to list 10 things you would like to accomplish before your number is up & you meet the Grim Reaper....
1. I would like to receive a major windfall. Of course, I'd be frugal with it, but just having a little something for a rainy day.....nice...
2. I would like a trip to
3. I would like to see my sons realize their career goals & not get lost in day-to-day issues. Okay, this one still stands.
5. I would like a cute, reliable car that I don't have to pray a Mantra of "Please God, don't let me break down" or "Please God, let the car start" every time I get into it.
6. I would like to live in a big old house. One that can handle family gatherings when my sons have families of their own. Yep, still like this one too. OLD house, maybe with a wrap-around porch. Ah, I'm pretty simple at heart, aren't I?
7. I would like a computer that can handle viewing profiles without locking up. Shoot, what do I mean...profiles....handle more than one web page, period! Grr....this one should move to the top of the list!
8. I would like to live less than 20 minutes away from work. Work? How about, I'd like to not HAVE to work.....that's even better!
9. I would like to see
And while I'm not penny-pinching, let's go to Acapulco, or the Carribbean.....ah, yes....water everywhere.....
Now for the tag: yeah, I'm tagging....you're not getting off THAT easily! If you've already done it, well....just let us know, or link us.
1. Gordo
2. Cherie Amour
3. Malka
4. Eightezchic
5. Victoria (you escaped by the contest the last time)
6. ~Steph~
7. Dianna
8. OSB
9. kiki
10. Char
Okay, phew...I'm done. If anyone knows some good revenge tactics, hit me up in my email. Logical Psycho really is deserving.....
Monday, September 10, 2007
Age old question...
Can't men & women be friends, & just friends? I've always (maybe naively) maintained that there is such a thing. I've been told, however, that this isn't the case.
I've always had friends that were men, with absolutely no intentions of anything other than friendship. I wouldn't ever suspect that they had other ideas either.
Gordo wrote a blog not too long ago along these very lines.
Everyone always says they want honesty & openness in a relationship. Yet, sometimes it causes unnecessary arguments. Two of the comments in his blog that got my attention were:
"Ladies, dont be open about every aspect of your life because if a guy is jealous no matter how open and honest you are with them, they will still get jealous even though it is not warranted."
Have you ever told your S.O. about the guy that flirts with you, or a new friend at work? It doesn't usually go over very big.
"I would never put boundaries on any friend male or female if they need me.........when you get into a relationship you should not have to change...if you are loyal to that person and open and have never given the other person a reason to not trust you then they should respect your friendships no matter if they are male or female."
Rather than relate stories of jealous Significant Others over the friendships I've had, I'll just open it up to you. You tell me what you think. Should there be limits & rules to your friendships, once you are involved?
I've always had friends that were men, with absolutely no intentions of anything other than friendship. I wouldn't ever suspect that they had other ideas either.
Gordo wrote a blog not too long ago along these very lines.
Everyone always says they want honesty & openness in a relationship. Yet, sometimes it causes unnecessary arguments. Two of the comments in his blog that got my attention were:
"Ladies, dont be open about every aspect of your life because if a guy is jealous no matter how open and honest you are with them, they will still get jealous even though it is not warranted."
Have you ever told your S.O. about the guy that flirts with you, or a new friend at work? It doesn't usually go over very big.
"I would never put boundaries on any friend male or female if they need me.........when you get into a relationship you should not have to change...if you are loyal to that person and open and have never given the other person a reason to not trust you then they should respect your friendships no matter if they are male or female."
Rather than relate stories of jealous Significant Others over the friendships I've had, I'll just open it up to you. You tell me what you think. Should there be limits & rules to your friendships, once you are involved?
Tuesday, August 28, 2007
And I wonder...
Saturday I realized that it had been 14 years to the day since my mom passed away. Of course, I revisited the events that night & the days that followed. It seems as though they were just the other day, not so many years ago.
I also saw the other night, that one of my Myspace friends had passed away.
Time passes too quickly. And I wonder........
Thoughts have run through my mind because of these events, although so many years apart. (It doesn't take much for my mind to wander from one thought to the next, in a chain reaction.) Before I start, just remember...this is MY humble opinion.
I went through 12 years of Catholic school. I took a mandatory Religion class every year. Our Senior year, we had a class on Death & Dying. It was basically a class to teach us how to handle death, not on the questions that you would think a Religion class would want to teach you, like what happens when you die?
If what I remember of the two faiths I have studied is incorrect, by all means, tell me. As Catholics, we were taught that when we die, our soul moves on. I learned that there was Hell (for the truly evil), Heaven (for the saintly) & Purgatory (where pretty much about everybody else ends up). They never addressed what happens after Purgatory. I guess you have the opportunity to go on to Heaven or Hell from there, after "Judgment Day".
After I married, my ex thought it was a good idea to explore the Jehovah Witnesses. They have a completely different opinion of what happens in death. They teach that "at death, humans cease to exist. The dead know, feel and experience absolutely nothing." Heaven is reserved for a certain amount (144,000) of people; thus, not every person goes to heaven. There's a calculation surrounding this number, but I won't explain it now, because that would be a blog in itself. The dead will be resurrected eventually to live in a Paradise on Earth, as in the Garden of Eden's description.
The jury is still out for me on what I actually believe. I lean more towards the JW's thinking. I don't think that you know anything once you're dead. Alan provided me with proof of that in his blog last week.
What do you think happens in death? I'm all about weighing out information from all sources & making my own decision.
I also saw the other night, that one of my Myspace friends had passed away.
Time passes too quickly. And I wonder........
Thoughts have run through my mind because of these events, although so many years apart. (It doesn't take much for my mind to wander from one thought to the next, in a chain reaction.) Before I start, just remember...this is MY humble opinion.
I went through 12 years of Catholic school. I took a mandatory Religion class every year. Our Senior year, we had a class on Death & Dying. It was basically a class to teach us how to handle death, not on the questions that you would think a Religion class would want to teach you, like what happens when you die?
If what I remember of the two faiths I have studied is incorrect, by all means, tell me. As Catholics, we were taught that when we die, our soul moves on. I learned that there was Hell (for the truly evil), Heaven (for the saintly) & Purgatory (where pretty much about everybody else ends up). They never addressed what happens after Purgatory. I guess you have the opportunity to go on to Heaven or Hell from there, after "Judgment Day".
After I married, my ex thought it was a good idea to explore the Jehovah Witnesses. They have a completely different opinion of what happens in death. They teach that "at death, humans cease to exist. The dead know, feel and experience absolutely nothing." Heaven is reserved for a certain amount (144,000) of people; thus, not every person goes to heaven. There's a calculation surrounding this number, but I won't explain it now, because that would be a blog in itself. The dead will be resurrected eventually to live in a Paradise on Earth, as in the Garden of Eden's description.
The jury is still out for me on what I actually believe. I lean more towards the JW's thinking. I don't think that you know anything once you're dead. Alan provided me with proof of that in his blog last week.
What do you think happens in death? I'm all about weighing out information from all sources & making my own decision.
Friday, August 17, 2007
Hodgepodge
Wow...it's been a while since I've blogged....who'd have thunk that I could keep quiet so long?
My second job really exhausts me, but the extra money helps. However, I'm being taken advantage of, & it aggravates me to no end. I've learned to speak up a little though, & mentioned something casually to the manager tonight. That's about the best I can muster, because it's totally out of character for me to complain. To explain would take a whole blog, so I'll just leave it at that for now. Bleckh!
Victoria's contest is bursting at the seams with comments & votes. How in the world can she & the judges possibly keep up with all of the votes? And that's not including the email votes! My eyes cross every time I go through the blog comments there! Kudos to her for undertaking such a daunting task! Who knew?
I don't have more than a few friends here on Myspace that I know in real life, not that I wouldn't like to meet more. Making friends here is different, since they've already read most of the things you've said, good or bad. I like to be able to vent if I want, or speak my mind, & there are times when I wouldn't want friends & family to read what I have to say. Part of it is always trying to keep peace (a huge flaw, I know), & part is that it gives me freedom. I don't know how partners do it. Is it possible to never have a thought they wouldn't share with the other person? That's admirable, & I'm not being sarcastic.
My friend, Anita, wrote a blog a few weeks ago about "friends" deleting themselves from Myspace friendships. I know there are times when profiles are deleted by Myspace for whatever reason, & there are times when we clean up our lists. Do you ever wonder if somewhere out there in cyberland, that you've touched (in a good way), & we've just deleted them? Perhaps you make a person's day just by saying hello, but you'll never know?
The one thing I've always liked about my favorite movie of all time, "It's a Wonderful Life" (the old original), is the part where George Bailey finds out how everyone's lives would be if he had never been born. The thought fascinates me. Eh, but who will ever know?
Hmm...probably enough rambling for one night...or morning. I'm surprised I'm still awake!
Would you believe that I have never had even two pages of comments on a blog? Is it something I've said?? lol
My second job really exhausts me, but the extra money helps. However, I'm being taken advantage of, & it aggravates me to no end. I've learned to speak up a little though, & mentioned something casually to the manager tonight. That's about the best I can muster, because it's totally out of character for me to complain. To explain would take a whole blog, so I'll just leave it at that for now. Bleckh!
Victoria's contest is bursting at the seams with comments & votes. How in the world can she & the judges possibly keep up with all of the votes? And that's not including the email votes! My eyes cross every time I go through the blog comments there! Kudos to her for undertaking such a daunting task! Who knew?
I don't have more than a few friends here on Myspace that I know in real life, not that I wouldn't like to meet more. Making friends here is different, since they've already read most of the things you've said, good or bad. I like to be able to vent if I want, or speak my mind, & there are times when I wouldn't want friends & family to read what I have to say. Part of it is always trying to keep peace (a huge flaw, I know), & part is that it gives me freedom. I don't know how partners do it. Is it possible to never have a thought they wouldn't share with the other person? That's admirable, & I'm not being sarcastic.
My friend, Anita, wrote a blog a few weeks ago about "friends" deleting themselves from Myspace friendships. I know there are times when profiles are deleted by Myspace for whatever reason, & there are times when we clean up our lists. Do you ever wonder if somewhere out there in cyberland, that you've touched (in a good way), & we've just deleted them? Perhaps you make a person's day just by saying hello, but you'll never know?
The one thing I've always liked about my favorite movie of all time, "It's a Wonderful Life" (the old original), is the part where George Bailey finds out how everyone's lives would be if he had never been born. The thought fascinates me. Eh, but who will ever know?
Hmm...probably enough rambling for one night...or morning. I'm surprised I'm still awake!
Would you believe that I have never had even two pages of comments on a blog? Is it something I've said?? lol
Thursday, August 02, 2007
Before the Grim Reaper strikes...yes, another TAG!
I have been tagged by
Now for the tag: yeah, I'm tagging....you're not getting off THAT easily! I'll be nice....I'll only pick 5 people.
†Victoria Vicious†
Kara531
Edahi
Tanya
**looking around at the readers***
LOGI....no no, Ala.....alright, you two can be safe....
Lastly, I pick:
Nurseratchet..
If you've been tagged before, or WISH to be tagged....link us up!
This time, you have to list 10 things you would like to do before your number is up...meet the Grim Reaper....
I have MANY things I'd like to do, see & experience before I die, both feasible & not (there aren't rules listed as to feasibility). So, without further ado:
1. I would like the ability to not live from paycheck to paycheck. Perhaps have an extra buck (or two) left at the end of the week.
2. I would like a trip to
3. I would like to see my sons realize their career goals & not get lost in day-to-day issues.
5. I would like a cute, reliable car that I don't have to pray a Mantra of "Please God, don't let me break down" or "Please God, let the car start" every time I get into it.
6. I would like to live in a big old house. One that can handle family gatherings when my sons have families of their own.
7. I would like a computer that can handle viewing profiles without locking up.
8. I would like to live less than 20 minutes away from work.
9. I would like to see
Now for the tag: yeah, I'm tagging....you're not getting off THAT easily! I'll be nice....I'll only pick 5 people.
†Victoria Vicious†
Kara531
Edahi
Tanya
**looking around at the readers***
LOGI....no no, Ala.....alright, you two can be safe....
Lastly, I pick:
Nurseratchet..
If you've been tagged before, or WISH to be tagged....link us up!
Wednesday, August 01, 2007
It's been awhile...
since I've played this game.
I have been tagged by
Barbie
The rules are: Once you have been tagged, you have to write a blog with 10 weird random things, facts, or habits about yourself. At the end, you choose 8 people to be tagged, list their names. Don't forget to leave a comment that says "you are tagged" on their profile and tell them to read your latest blog.
I have been tagged by
Barbie
The rules are: Once you have been tagged, you have to write a blog with 10 weird random things, facts, or habits about yourself. At the end, you choose 8 people to be tagged, list their names. Don't forget to leave a comment that says "you are tagged" on their profile and tell them to read your latest blog.
Here we go.....
1. I like most types of music, depending on my mood, but my most favorite is Christmas music. I listen to it all year long.
2. I am addicted to Myspace, blogs mostly. Addicted may be a strong word....I can click out of it ANY TIME I WANT!
3. I lead a pretty boring life of work & sleep, mainly in that order, & really don't mind that I'm not always out & about.
4. I love time alone. Not just in my thoughts, but physically alone.
5. I love thunderstorms, & like to sit on the porch to watch them.
6. I've always hated being an only child.
7. I have a super-huge pen fetish/addiction. I'm always collecting pens, but rarely write anything by hand.
8. I sleep so soundly that I barely hear the alarm clock, with two exceptions. My sons can just say "Mom", & I'm awake in a flash (although, not necessarily coherent & functioning). Funny how that works.
9. I like to pimp out my friends. No no, not PIMP them OUT....draw attention to them & their blogs. Does that sound better?
10. My favorite wrestler is Shawn Michaels. Not only does he have some great moves, he's HOT! Now, who amongst you would've known that I've watched wrestling?
I don't have much luck with tags, but I'll pick some poor souls anyway. Let's see......
1. Alan
2. LOGICAL PSYCHO {UNDERTAKER DISCIPLE}
3. Katatonic
4. Spoiled brat :P
5. .tm (who is that broad?)
6. The Urban Shaman
7. ~jeff
8. anita
9. M&M
10. Tanya
Okay people....get to blogging!
Friday, July 27, 2007
Linking & clicking.....are your fingers ready?
I thought I'd do a little linking & clicking blog today. Feel free to add your you own links, if you'd like. If I'm not subscribed yet, send me an invite, but don't forget to subscribe to mine too!
If you missed Valerie's blog the other day, you really need to stop by & check it out. I admire all of the writers for sharing their thoughts & really doing some naked blogging.
My friend Alan, though very modest, writes a great blog that always is of interest. Say hello to Alan here.
Spoiled Brat (aka Kim) is a total sweetheart. Visit her blog here.
Tanya hosts interactive parties & games here. I've met lots of friends from Tanya.
If you haven't heard of Strango, you haven't been making your blog rounds.
MySecret posts anonymous thoughts, confessions & secrets here.
It has been awhile, although you may had to have seen him around, but Witness Protection is definitely worth the read. His writing is so engaging & clever. I always flounder trying to find the word I'm looking for in describing his blogs.....perhaps you can tell me!
Logical Psycho is a must-have friend. His last blog may interest you too.......
Tell me Kara531 isn't silly, with her latest blog.
Malka's blogs are like no others. You never know what the next topic may be.
Cherie Amour's blogs are always entertaining & well-written. If you need encouragement or inspiration, she's the one to find.
Okay, I think that's a fine start for one day. Start clicking!
If you missed Valerie's blog the other day, you really need to stop by & check it out. I admire all of the writers for sharing their thoughts & really doing some naked blogging.
My friend Alan, though very modest, writes a great blog that always is of interest. Say hello to Alan here.
Spoiled Brat (aka Kim) is a total sweetheart. Visit her blog here.
Tanya hosts interactive parties & games here. I've met lots of friends from Tanya.
If you haven't heard of Strango, you haven't been making your blog rounds.
MySecret posts anonymous thoughts, confessions & secrets here.
It has been awhile, although you may had to have seen him around, but Witness Protection is definitely worth the read. His writing is so engaging & clever. I always flounder trying to find the word I'm looking for in describing his blogs.....perhaps you can tell me!
Logical Psycho is a must-have friend. His last blog may interest you too.......
Tell me Kara531 isn't silly, with her latest blog.
Malka's blogs are like no others. You never know what the next topic may be.
Cherie Amour's blogs are always entertaining & well-written. If you need encouragement or inspiration, she's the one to find.
Okay, I think that's a fine start for one day. Start clicking!
Monday, July 16, 2007
ROTC
My oldest son is contemplating joining the ROTC. I have no clue what the benefits of joining the ROTC are, except that it is my understanding that he would be an officer in the Air Force after college.
The website's FAQ section seemed vague to me. How many years are they enlisted after college? Are there long-term benefits from the program? Do the officers stay on bases state-side, or are they sent into war? I thought I'd ask around & see if I can get the scoop on the situation, should he decide that's what he wants to do.
What do you think? Would getting involved with the ROTC be a good thing?
The website's FAQ section seemed vague to me. How many years are they enlisted after college? Are there long-term benefits from the program? Do the officers stay on bases state-side, or are they sent into war? I thought I'd ask around & see if I can get the scoop on the situation, should he decide that's what he wants to do.
What do you think? Would getting involved with the ROTC be a good thing?
Friday, July 13, 2007
Attracted & Magnetized, or not...
I was picking the brain of a friend yesterday (picking brains is a hobby of mine, you know) about his thoughts on relationships. Simply stated, this was his thought:
"opposites DO NOT attract in a good relationship, and even if they did, it may still stand as a quote, but opposites DO NOT STAY in a good relationship, they may attract, but they do not stay magnetized"
I told him that would have to be my next blog, so here I am. What do you think? Do opposites attract? If you ARE attracted to a personality opposite of yours, can a long-lasting relationship thrive?
I don't know if any of you remember this MTV video of Paula Abdul's, but it's the first thing I thought of when the subject came up. Now this song is stuck in my head.....oy!
"opposites DO NOT attract in a good relationship, and even if they did, it may still stand as a quote, but opposites DO NOT STAY in a good relationship, they may attract, but they do not stay magnetized"
I told him that would have to be my next blog, so here I am. What do you think? Do opposites attract? If you ARE attracted to a personality opposite of yours, can a long-lasting relationship thrive?
I don't know if any of you remember this MTV video of Paula Abdul's, but it's the first thing I thought of when the subject came up. Now this song is stuck in my head.....oy!
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