Carte blanche....wtf?

Carte Blanche....wtf?
Current mood: nostalgic
Category: MySpace

I don't know about anyone else, but I like to save things, like momentos of a time gone past. Call it sentimental, call it a nostalgic walk into the past (as Alan would call it), it's just me. Heck, my mom & dad saved all the letters they wrote each other during their courtship (& that was over 50 years ago), so maybe it's genetic for me...lol

Anyway, I don't often go through my old comments, but I happened to be looking not too long ago, & I was missing comments. How did I know? Because they were comments from someone who is no longer on my friend's list.

It isn't merely that these comments are now gone, although that disappoints & hurts me. I understand the wherefore & why of...SOME deleted comments. What really bothers me is that Myspace has these rules, like that you HAVE to be a friend in order to leave comments, or that you have to be a friend to email, yet a non-friend can come along to MY profile, & just erase every trace of evidence of ever having been there? How can that be? How can someone who is no longer friends with you, have carte blanche over YOUR profile, erasing comments & photo comments? Doesn't that sound...a little off? WTF??

Past tense...

"You are not defined by your past, you are PREPARED for the future by your past." - Joel Olsteen

For the past few months, I have been watching Joel Olsteen on Sunday mornings. I got hooked when I was up that early getting ready for work. I haven't turned into a Bible thumper, but I do like discussing religious views. Anyway, I find him more of a motivational speaker, than an evangelist. A couple weeks ago, he talked about the past, which hit home with me, since I have been having an issue with this for over a month now.

I touched on it in my last blog, about having things brought back up & used in a disagreement. Basically, my present/future was being predetermined by a friend, judging from my past, which struck a nerve with me. If that isn't how it was meant to be read, then I apologize for any misunderstanding.

I don't believe that idea....that the past determines the present or the future. I think we CAN learn from our mistakes & move past them, not making them again. For example, surely you've heard "Once a cheater, always a cheater." I don't buy it. I don't believe that because a person cheated in one relationship, it proves that he/she will cheat again. I think there had to be serious issues going on in the relationship that need to be looked at, to determine the cause of the cheating. It all depends on the situation, & I think it's possible that if those relationship issues don't come about in the new relationship, then odds are, neither will the cheating.

I know a lot of prisoners don't reform while they're in prison, & when they get out they commit the crime again, but that's not to say that ALL prisoners can't & don't reform. I'm sure there are those that learn from their mistakes, & change their ways.

So, I need some feedback. What do you think....should one's past define what the future will be?